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Balance and Harmony

You’ve probably heard those two words many times. They sound like common-sense words; but let’s face it, who has time in this busy world to try and work out what they mean? Yes, balance and harmony sounds wonderful, but maybe you’re thinking it might take too much time out of your day, to even give it a try.

But what if these two words could end up being something you just can’t do without. They could become your support system through all that self-doubt and uncertainty you’re left with when things just don’t go the way you wanted.

They could help you stay calm when everything around you is in chaos. Instead of seeing the negative in a situation, you might even see the funny side of it. You may even begin to feel that passion and enthusiasm again for the things you once loved to do. Balance and Harmony could even become your new best buddies.

If you’re reading this from a negative and stressed self, you could probably think this all sounds a bit far-fetched. But that’s what happens when the negative side of someone hears about a solution, it can become too much to think about, and for that reason I need to get to the point, quickly.

How can you get Balance and Harmony to work for you in your life? Easy … first of all, you need to understand how it all works… Balance and Harmony ‘happens’ when you are physically, emotionally and mentally in alignment.

It all begins with your thought. What you think is so important Your thought affects your emotions, with your emotions then affecting your physical body. When you get your thinking in the right place, then the energy within your emotions is lessened, leading to a healthier physical body.

Now, that makes sense, doesn’t it? So getting your thinking in the right place is where you should start. All that memory getting in the way of being the person you really want to be. You need to let go of that past, it really isn’t that good for you. It’s the future you should be looking towards. What about a new future? A different future than the one you’re heading towards.

To have a different future, then you have to be different. You need to change how you think, so you don’t have a future that’s the same as your past. You need to feel good about yourself, and your physical body will thank you!

In my mind travel ‘creating the Future you want’ program I have designed a simple exercise that helps achieve Balance and Harmony.

A sample of this exercise is available on my ‘Creating the Future you want‘ program. So take time out and get some Balance and Harmony into your life. Try it and see. You’ll be so glad you did.

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Blog written by Diane Swaffield. Read with love by Jason, in dedication and inspired memory of Diane.

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What is reality?

What is reality - The Journey Home

Throughout the ages this question has been asked by many great philosophers, scientists, mystics, deep thinkers, plus the ordinary folk, who are looking for the answer to ‘what is reality?’

For some people there is no question to ask.  It is quite simple.  What you can see and touch is reality.  What is all the fuss about?  Why even ask the question, when the answer is so obvious.  Some people can become quite irritated with the question, because they hold onto the comfort of knowing their reality is their security, and you just don’t mess with that!  Reality then becomes a fixed point of observation, filtered through their concept, which is based on their beliefs.

However, we live in a world that often has anomalies, whereby the safety and security of our reality can be challenged.  This can test our beliefs, as well as our security in knowing our place in the world we live in.

When we live through our identity of who we are, surrounded by what is known to us, there is often little room for something else to enter into our life that cannot be explained or understood.  This is where our good old imagination comes in.  It often takes the blame for things we cannot identify or explain, and coupled with time, whatever has happened can often get pushed into the back of your mind.

But what if you are someone who has had one or more experiences you just can’t explain.  Someone who just doesn’t want to forget what they have seen or experienced, but instead wants answers.  Answers to the question ‘what is reality?’  Perhaps you have no-one to talk to, because you’re afraid of people thinking you’re crazy.  You feel alone, isolated and confused.

If this is you, then you’re not alone.  There are so many people who are afraid to come forward to share their own experiences, but they’re there.  Perhaps you’ve seen something, heard something, experienced time slips or time loops.  There are so many different types of anomalies to show that reality is not fixed.

So who am I to share these types of comments with you?  Well I am someone who has had so many experiences throughout the past 36 years of investigation into ‘what is reality?’.. I believe I am well qualified to say it as it is.

This article can only touch the surface of ‘what is reality?’  However, what I do know after all these years, is that your reality will equal what you want to believe, rather than what it may or may not be.  People often have a ‘ceiling’ to what they will accept.  Even the most open-minded can have a limit to what they will allow themselves to believe.

Throughout my own experiences, especially in the earlier days, I created many ‘ceilings’ where I said “enough is enough”.  Yet I just couldn’t leave it there.  So I just kept on going.  As each ceiling was dismantled, I built a higher ceiling, and so on.

Every experience I had that defied logic or physics was always disputed by many people, whom I shared my experiences with, as being false or illusionary.  But I am here to tell you that’s just so wrong.  You cannot measure what cannot be measured.  I came to understand that reality is always shifting.  When you think you completely understand it, then it has a way of changing.

We are always dependent upon what is fixed, what is reliable, what is known.  That becomes our reference point, and we call it ‘our life’.  We hold onto that with everything we have, and we feel secure and safe.  Our beliefs become important to us, especially when these beliefs are shared by so many others.  We live as if they must be right.  So many people can’t be wrong .. can they?

So the thought of reality not being what it appears to be never enters most people’s thoughts.  However, when something happens that does not fit into what is referred to as  ‘normal’, then that leads to a decision to either leave well alone, or to take a good look into what it means.  This will then lead you to the question .. ‘what is reality?’

You might also like to understand how your life is creating your ‘most likely future’.   If you are interested in taking a step forward to create the future you want, take a look at my Program titled ‘Creating the Future you want‘, which is available under the Mind Travel section of The Journey Home website.  This program will take you on a personal journey, mind travelling forward in time to view and experience your ‘most likely future’. You will then travel back in time to heal your past, become empowered to make change, then experience a guided Mind Travel exercise to create and experience your ‘new future’

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Blog written by Diane Swaffield. Read with love by Jason, in dedication and inspired memory of Diane.

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Going beyond personal boundaries

We all live within boundaries, because that’s the way life is.  They are put in place to keep us from overstepping the mark, and doing the wrong thing.  These boundaries are usually called “rules and regulations” and we have to abide by them or face the consequences.

However, when it comes to personal boundaries, then we are looking at something totally different, for these personal boundaries involve physical, emotional and mental limitations you live behind every day.  These boundaries are often viewed as safety zones, and keep you within what is known, rather than have you enter the unknown beyond the boundary.  In saying that, there are times when these boundaries need to be crossed, so you can move forward and be more progressive in your life.

So let’s have a look at some examples of what personal boundaries might involve …

Let’s start with a physical boundary.  One boundary, in particular, could be the lack of trust you have in your physical body that it has the skills needed to be on a team.  So instead of participating in the sport you love, you sit on the sidelines and become a spectator.  In this instance, the boundary you needed to cross was the belief in yourself.  Your physical body would then have acted on this belief.

Then there’s the physical boundary of being unhealthy.  When you keep telling yourself you just need to find a way to become motivated, but somehow it just doesn’t happen.  Your boundary in this example is your need to stay within the comfort of your lifestyle.  This physical boundary is usually connected to emotions.

Now emotional boundaries can often be the hardest to cross.   Many of these boundaries are built in the early, formative years of someone’s life.  But they can also be created later on in life following one or more traumatic events, which can change the way someone sees themselves and the world around them.  Emotional boundaries can be quite debilitating.  Preventing the person from being confident, happy and motivated.  A lack of self-worth keeps the person from moving beyond the boundary.

If you want to go past emotional boundaries, you will have to go beyond memory.  The power within the memory is what is holding someone hostage.  You cannot eliminate the memory, but what you can do is release the power within that memory, enabling yourself to move forward in your life.

This brings us to mental boundaries.  That’s when you are not open to changing what you think and believe.  You are stuck in a cycle of your own thoughts.  The world has to change around you to accommodate what you know to be right.  People who have strong mental boundaries can often become quite challenging and aggressive if they come across someone else who will not yield to their way of thinking.

The greatest builder of mental boundaries are ‘beliefs’.  Beliefs are usually formed at a young age, but may also be embraced at a later time in life through powerful experiences or events.  Whilst beliefs can offer security and comfort, some beliefs become mental boundaries, thereby preventing you from going beyond the sameness of your thoughts. When this occurs, you are unable to expand your consciousness to incorporate new ideas and new ways of thinking into your life, thus preventing you from moving forward and evolving the person you are.

Identifying your own personal boundaries is not always easy.  Denial is always on ‘stand-by’, ready to step in when you feel unsure about making changes to your life.  It acts like your best friend who is looking after your interests, but in fact it is a destructive element when your life is at a standstill and you’re going nowhere fast.

So don’t listen to denial, but listen to reason.  If you believe you need to live life differently, and want to go beyond your own personal boundaries, then take that first step.  Be honest.  Ask yourself this question … Do you have boundaries you need to cross so you can live the life you deserve?

Boundaries have the power to keep you on a cycle of sameness.  This is often seen with people who want to break free of relationships, change their career, overcome their financial problems, or want a completely different type of life than the one they have.  However, they often feel powerless to make the necessary changes.  What they may not realize is they do not need to change the problem, but they need to go beyond their acceptance of the outcome.  This can be done by recognizing their self-imposed boundary, and taking steps to go beyond it.

When your identity is so closely linked to your personal boundaries, you may feel unsure about disengaging from these boundaries.  For boundaries can be like an old friend.  Someone who’s always been there for you.  Someone you can depend upon, but also someone who doesn’t want you to change and grow away from them.

Some old friends can stay with us, happily, for all of our lives, whilst other old friends have been out-grown and are no longer needed or wanted.  So think of your boundaries in the same way.  Keep the ones you still need, and let go of the ones you don’t.

When you feel an overwhelming attachment to a personal boundary, then you’re really not ready to let it go and move past it.  It is there because you still have a need for it, and it’s simply a matter of time, or a matter of changeability within yourself that will bring a need to let go of that attachment.  On the other hand, if you really want a different type of life, then take a leap of faith .. beyond your boundaries.  It just might be the best thing you have ever done.

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Blog written by Diane Swaffield. Read with love by Jason, in dedication and inspired memory of Diane.

If you would like to take a further step towards creating the life you want, and the future you deserve, I have created a Program titled ‘Creating the Future you want‘, which is available under the Mind Travel section of The Journey Home website.  This program will take you on a personal journey, mind travelling forward in time to view and experience your ‘most likely future’. You will then travel back in time to heal your past, become empowered to make change, then experience a guided Mind Travel exercise to create and experience your ‘new future’.

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I Just can’t Relax – what’s wrong with me?

Welcome to the 21st century…  where time is regarded as precious.  There’s just not enough of it to do everything you need to do.  Everything runs at such a fast pace, you find yourself prioritizing, just to keep up.

Your calendar is probably full for the month, and you’re already half-way to filling up next month’s as well.  Then there’s the clashing of invites from different friends or relatives, which leads to you spending so much time, you don’t have, on worrying which one you have to let down.

This technological age we live in has expanded our world.  It has offered us the ability to experience life in a totally different way than ever before.  It encourages us to learn, communicate and expand our understanding of the world and the people in it.  But it all takes time.

So if you can’t relax, and are wondering why, there are a couple of reasons you need to consider …

Firstly, you may have put yourself into a ‘self-expectation loop’, whereby you just can’t pull yourself away from being busy, as well as being there for everyone else.  Another way to put it would be to say “you don’t want to miss out on what’s going on”, so all of your time is directed towards what you expect from yourself, and what you believe other people want from you.

Secondly, it’s about how much energy you put into your busy life, and the stress that comes with it that prevents you from feeling relaxed.  This will also affect your sleep pattern, with many people not being able to get into a deep sleep, to rejuvenate and re-charge their body.  Instead, waking up as tired as they were the night before.  Too many people suffer from the ‘I can’t relax syndrome’ and it’s affecting their lives.  It’s no fun dragging yourself out of bed every morning, feeling absolutely exhausted, especially when that calendar is so full of what you have to do that day.

That’s when the thoughts arrive of “what I wouldn’t give to lie on a beach today, with nothing to do.  Just sit back, relax, have a drink. Feel the warm sun on me.  Mmm .. that would be so good!  I wish I didn’t have to go to work today”.   Now, what’s wrong with this picture?  Human behavior seems to have a way about it to want something when it’s not possible (when you need to meet your obligations and go to work).  But when it is possible, they don’t want it (weekend or other free time), they simply have too much to do.

If you’ve ever had those thoughts first thing in the morning, then it’s your body’s way of saying “I’ve had enough.  I want to relax.  Just stop, why don’t you! Take me where I can just switch off from this busy life”.  That’s when you need to listen, and take the next opportunity to do just that.  Don’t wait.  Do it as soon as you can.  Give all those thoughts a rest.

There are different types of relaxation.  Sport, hobbies, reading, having coffee with friends, dining out, watching TV, surfing the net.   But remember, your brain is still taking in information, sorting it out, evaluating it and storing it in the subconscious for it to be retrieved at a later time.  Whilst this is called relaxation, there’s an even better way to relax.

It’s when you give yourself the gift of time that does not involve others. This type of relaxation enables you to get back in touch with what you feel, rather than what you think.  Your brain is not overloaded with information.  Your breathing slows and, guess what?  You begin to relax.  It’s that easy.  It’s simply taking time-out for you, instead of being there for everyone else.

When you relax you also change your brain pattern away from the Beta state, which is associated with concentration and alertness.  In the Beta state neurons fire in rapid succession, helping you achieve peak performance. However, when you really begin to relax – you then enter the Alpha state, where your brain activity slows from the rapid patterns of Beta into the more gentle rhythm of Alpha.  This is when you feel truly relaxed, and your creativity and visualization is at its best.  You can then view your life with a greater sense of insight, enabling you to make decisions that were so difficult to do when you were feeling so tired and stressed.

If you would like to take a further step towards creating the life you want, and the future you deserve, I have created a Program titled ‘Creating the Future you want‘, which is available under the Mind Travel section of The Journey Home website.  This program will take you on a personal journey, mind travelling forward in time to view and experience your ‘most likely future’. You will then travel back in time to heal your past, become empowered to make change, then experience a guided Mind Travel exercise to create and experience your ‘new future’.

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